Feeling stuck? Uncertain? Afraid? Conflicted? Impatient? Join the ever growing club of good people who feel out of control whether it’s their business, career, relationships, finances or just life in general.
I can’t tell you how many times during my life I was at my wits end to know what to do when given unexpected and often dramatic circumstances that I was unprepared for. What to do? Will this work? Should I wait? What if I..?
I have tried everything and nothing is working.
Was it fear, a lack of preparation or planning, ego domination or some other trait or characteristic that was being tested in me?
What to do now or next . . . a troubling position to be in hoping that things would get better on their own or at least not worse while I was uncertain of what decisions to make or actions to take.
As a global speaker and bestselling author for over thirty years sharing hope, optimism and lessons learned with others, I often didn’t feel like I deserved the negative circumstances that I found myself embroiled in, but here they were nonetheless.
What can we do when we feel like we have nowhere to turn, no one we can count on or just feel like – what’s the point anymore? Well, here is what I have learned during my long journey, I hope some of the ideas might help you if you feel like you are in a deep valley or just unsure of what your next step, action or decision should be.
-Talk to people you trust and who won’t be judgmental, critical or invalidating. Be honest and share truth, feelings and perceived choices with them and listen to their guidance. You don’t have to do any of it but who knows, maybe something they say may open doors or trigger something you had not considered.
-Read more. There are literally millions of resources available today and most of them are free. But, don’t let money get in the way, if you have to buy some resource – do it. Ask me for my recommended reading list that lists over 75 of my all time favorite books (not mine) and the list is on me.
-Hire a coach for a few sessions. Doesn’t have to be a long term process. Again be vulnerable, honest and forthcoming about your issues, challenges and/or fears and uncertainty. I have helped hundreds of people during my life with both long and short coaching relationships – call me.
-Let go of a victim mentality and stop beating yourself up until the scars and bruises become permanent and life threatening. Regardless of your current state – you have previous skills, achievements, lessons learned, successes etc. that will validate who you are and help you take a different or the right path into the future.
– Start a journal and spend a few minutes every day recording – actions, outcomes, decisions, consequences, disappointments etc.
-We all face tribulations and trials sooner or later. Accept them as simply things that have come into your life to help you grow, learn and get better and wiser. No one who has ever lived and accomplished great things whether an athlete, teacher, politician, clergy member, parent, artist, musician or any other life role did it without facing some form of adversity, trial, challenge or failure.
-And finally, take full responsibility for your past, present and future. This is your life and you can do what you want with it – you can work, believe, act and learn or sit and blame, complain, feel self-pity or just useless. It’s a simple choice. We are all given a certain number of years to live by God and we can live them productively regardless of our roles or responsibilities or we can give in to fate, circumstances or failure. But in the end, on your deathbed – will it be – blame, regrets and a lack of mature responsibility or a smile that you finished the race to the best of your ability and kept the faith.
“This is a world of action and not for moping and droning in.”
Charles Dickens